Ideas for Teaching Our Kids to Find the Good During Difficult Times


We all need help finding the good during difficult times. For our own mental health and as an example for our children, it is great to discover what good things are occurring amid difficult circumstances. Here are 25 ways to help your child (of any age) find or create good during a hard season.

 

Preschool Children

  • Do something for others. Pull the trash can to the curb for your neighbor, pick up trash at the park, or find a similar task that a preschooler can understand and participate in.
  • Most cartoons have someone overcoming difficult circumstances or solving a problem. Choose one that is a great example to watch together, and help them identify the positive that came out of the difficulty.
  • At dinner, ask your kids tell you about something good that happened in their day.
  • Hide something for them to find and talk about the treasure after finding it.
  • Teach them a scripture or a Bible song that shares the concept of thinking good thoughts or focuses on the goodness of God.
  • Take a walk and focus on the marvelous plants God created for us to enjoy. Encourage them to touch, smell, and describe them to you, focusing on how creative God was to make so many kinds.

Elementary Children

  • Identify people in your community who are helping others and make a list of them.
  • Find somewhere to volunteer or select a neighbor or teacher to bless.
  • Most animated movies feature a character that must overcome difficult circumstances. Watch one and help them identify the positive that came out of the difficulty.
  • At dinner ask your kids to tell you about something good that happened in their day.
  • Create a scavenger hunt to find a treasure and discuss keeping your eye on the end for the prize.
  • Drive through town for an “I Spy” game to notice something good or pretty amid everything else.
  • Have them memorize scripture that shares the concept of thinking good thoughts or focuses on the goodness of God.
  • Explain to them how they can be the blessing for someone else and write a letter or draw a picture and send to grandparents or a nursing home.

Middle School and High School

  • Have a conversation about what they have learned from their most difficult class or from virtual school. Ask them to name something good about school – in COVID mode of teaching and learning.
  • Find somewhere to volunteer or find an organization that’s preparing Christmas gift boxes for military personnel, children of incarcerated parents, or a needy family. Shop for the items together.
  • Watch a movie together that demonstrates something good coming out of adversity. Ask them to share their thoughts.
  • At dinner have them name something good that happened in their day.
  • Discuss with your children their goals and dreams. Brainstorm what adversity they think they will encounter or current challenges with their classes or job. Help them see the end result.
  • Choose some scriptures to post on the fridge, their bathroom mirror, etc. to remind them of God’s goodness.
  • Ask them to name five things they’re thankful for about their family. Post on the fridge.
  • Encourage your kids to avoid negative social media. It really is OK to unfriend the negative posters. Encourage them to share an encouraging quote or story on their page.

Adult Children

  • Ask them what good they have experienced in the midst of the pandemic.
  • Discuss with them where they have seen someone helping during this time that impressed them.
  • Send them a card with a scripture to encourage them in the difficulty.