Arise Blog

Category: Parenting

  • Spending Time

    I married right out of high school. I was an immature Christian and didn’t realize I should pray about who I was going to marry. God gave me four children. Two adopted and two biological. However, one was a gift for a very short time.

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  • LIGHTEN UP - (unpacking heavy emotions)

    For years my ‘this’ as a single mother was a concoction of anger, mixed with a cup of fear and two tablespoons of resentment. I still loved my former husband. And just when I thought I was getting over him, he’d pick up the kids for the weekend. I’d melt the second I laid eyes on him. Then all of my heartaches would spiral out of control once again.

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  • When You Do Not Understand

    I wonder how many times The Lord has taken the same approach with me? When I wave my fist and fight against his commands for my life, demanding He change His plan, does He lovingly shake His head and say, “She just can’t see my best for her. She doesn’t understand.”

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  • Our Children are not our Own

    I don’t believe there is anything in this world that can bring so much joy to our lives like parenting. But, with this joy can also come great pain, discouragement and insecurities like never before. That is the irony of being a parent.

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  • Three "To Do's" As a New Single Mother

    Friend, if you’re in the initial stage of redefining your life as a single parent, take heart. Read along as Pam Kanaly shares the basic ‘Children Facts’ that she wished she knew as a new single mom.

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  • Leeon

    As a single mother, I often have these moments when looking at my kids’ father. He is living life carefree! He feels paying child support is an infringement to him and heaven forbid he help out physically. I often find myself bitter and envious of his life. Occasionally, I look at the life he has and am jealous of everything he has that I don’t. A career, a girlfriend, a social life...I see all this and it is those times I will find myself tugging against God.

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  • Keeping the Worms in the Can with Co-Parenting

    If you're like most single parents, you'd agree that sharing the responsibility of raising the children under two roofs can be challenging. Pam Kanaly shares these simple ABC's of co-parenting that will hopefully bring about a successful resolution.

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  • How to Let Go of the Reins

    Allow them to make choices. If you encourage decision-making, your children will feel more important and confident as they grow into adults. They’ll also look to you for answers in heavier matters since they’ll know you’re not trying to control their every move. As one parent summed it up: “The more I encourage my son to think for himself, the more he will care what I think.”

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  • How to Curb the Conflicts of Coparenting

    If you’re like most single moms in the “raising kids department,” you need reminders of how to co-parent in such a way that your children succeed as an adult. My two children are grown now with babies of their own. After speaking to a group of single parents recently, I was reminded afresh of the struggles in passing the children back and forth to two different households and the wear and tear it can be on your soul.

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  • How to Persevere Past the Potholes - Second Part

    When you find yourself in a place where you must deal with nasty people, it helps to identify where boundaries are being breached. Maybe you are the way I was, constantly trying to figure out what the problem was, how to reason with these people, even thinking, What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I work this out?

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